Valentine’s Day could definitely be an unpleasant day within a year for those singles however it could be an awfully dreadful for someone who has just been dumped and also hoping to get the ex back. For those who want to get their ex back then Valentine’s Day could indeed be confusing.
This might be the time that you are in doubt whether you should call your ex. You might even doubt yourself whether you would like to wish him/her a happy valentine or whether you want to take him/her out over the dinner or you simply don’t want to stay alone on Valentine’s day and may plan to go out on a date with someone else in that case. You can even imagine if your ex already has plans to go on a date with someone else during this special day.
I know, mind plays dirty games with so much of dilemma while going through a breakup with someone you really, deeply, from the bottom of your heart care about.
That’s one of the reason why I wanted to write this post to help you out and clear some of the deceiving, confusing mindset you might be in right now. And make things more clearer in regards to whether you should get back with your ex this Valentine’s day.
Fair enough? So, let’s get started.
Should you text or call your ex on Valentine’s Day?
If you are already going out on a date with your ex, then this probably will be great reason to call her/him back during Valentine’s day. I mean, if you don’t you might as well have a chance she/he might go with someone else, right? Alright, kidding aside. If you are NOT already going out. Then, any other reason for you reaching her/him out will probably sound very desperate and needy, right?
I know, there can be gazillions of reasons that you will like to convince yourself. That its an amazing idea of wishing your ex Happy Valentine’s day. I know, when you were together you did that. And you might as well think that if you don’t then this might sound very rude, isn’t it?
Well, frankly. No matter what you think. This will completely showcase a characteristic traits of a needy person. Why, you may ask?
Well, that’s because please consider the fact that you and your ex are no more together, you have broken up right now. And whenever you try reaching her on Valentine’s day which is obviously one of the only romantic day of the year, you will probably make it obvious for your ex that you haven’t been over him/her. And you will like to get back together. That, you might probably be thinking that because of this magical day. You have a chance to get back together, isn’t it?
However, what if your ex will have a date on Valentine’s Day?
Might be. Might be not. That frankly really shouldn’t matter. Even though your ex is planning to go out on a date with someone random on Valentine’s day. Still you calling them won’t fix the issues that you had with your ex, right? Though, you might showcase yourself to be a fool trying to convince, plead, baby cry to getting your ex back and going on a date with you.
But you just want to know whether your ex has a date?
How would it affect you? Well, it would only make you feel worse. And it might be going to make you look needy as well as desperate right in front of your ex. You must let them have their date. You might ask them whether they had a date for Valentine’s once you ever get back together again. However, once it is not happening yet then don’t ever consider talking about it.
Should you consider giving a gift once it is Valentine’s Day?
Again, it will definitely be considered as a desperate and needy move. This could be considered once you are already back together again or you are in extremely close to what is referred as reconciliation. If you are to get a gift for your ex then it might show them that you are into expecting that during the said romantic day, the feelings might be reignited. Either way, never get them a card.
Should you consider going out on a date?
This should be the best option you should ever consider. It would be better compared with sitting home and also feeling miserable about you.
Will it be fine to ask your ex out for a date?
You must only contact your ex during Valentine’s Day once you want to ask them out to have a date. However, the case whether you should ask them out on a date or not would also depend on your situation. It would be great to ask them out on a date if you are extremely close to the idea of getting back together.
On the flip side, once you just broke up or once you are still in the period of no contact then it would be too risky to ask your ex out for a date. There is a need for you to evaluate the risk in terms of asking your ex out during Valentine’s Day. Once you want to get your ex girlfriend back or your ex boyfriend then there is a need for an overall strategy. You should evaluate whether asking them out during Valentine’s Day indeed fits your strategy. But once it doesn’t then you have to let the special or romantic day go.
Never fret about missing one Valentine’s Day with your ex. It is only considered as a holiday being over hyped by the media as well as the greeting cards company. The goal is to have a healthy and long relationship with your ex which might include numbers of holidays that would cherish for a lifetime. Never jeopardize the goal only to spend an over hyped holiday with your ex partner.